Day 120 on my journey: I’m almost there…!

Like I said before my husband agreed I could get my full salary in my own account. The last few days we’ve had some heated discussions about how we should spend our money.

I understand his side of the story and I wish he would understand mine. Slowly but surely I feel that he’ll agree to me having some sessions with Joan. I really want him to agree to that because I do not want any arguing about how much that is going to cost.

I think I was able to get him to understand that I am a grown woman who needs to have some control over her own money, if not full control. He wants us to do everything together, but he is always the one with the final say about what happens to our money. This is frustrating to me, because I hate being late to pay for our bills and he doesn’t really care.

End of the day we are behind on one of our bills for months and I just can’t seem to get it through to him that it’s important to pay your bills. Although after our talks he seems more open to my point of view.

Our main problem is that he is focused more on the future and I look more into what we need now. We have not been able to get a balance.

He’s afraid I’ll misuse our money and I’m afraid he’ll loose it all in his endeavors to make more money for the future.

Anyway I am this close (holding my fingers really close together) to getting my sessions with Joan.

I really need her to take me under her wings and help me overcome my fears, build my business and marketing skills, because I do want to be in business for myself and even though I am smart enough I feel I lack the determination and ability to sell anything…

Joan here I come…:-)

Day 13 on my journey: Finally a compromise…

My husband and I had a good talk about our finances and how we should take care of the bills and save every month. I am so grateful to say that we’ve finally come to a compromise. In all the years that I’ve known him it has seemed to me like he wanted to be in control of “our” money.

We spoke about how I feel and how he feels and it was good.

Is there such a thing as coincidence? Just yesterday I did some BSFF on control issues and the same night we started our talk. I don’t believe in coincidences… I just know it was because of what I did with BSFF… The treatments seem to kick in faster every time…

So now I am finally going to have my own money every month. Before I would ask my husband for money for every little thing I needed. I do get a little money on the side, but it is not a fixed amount. Now I know how much I’ll be getting every month. Most of the extra money I am going to make will go into our savings… which feels good… I don’t want to spend all my money like I used to do…

My husband still thinks I am like I used to be… and who knows how much I’ve changed. We’ll see how I handle the extra money in my pocket… Most of it will go for my gas, but at least I can call it my own…

The next thing I want to treat with BSFF is my perfectionism and fear of either failure or success…

Wish me luck…

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